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NICE OR NOT-NICE, THAT IS THE QUESTION
The following analysis is a purely subjective one, so it should
not be taken the least seriously. In an evident way, it does not
concern anyone, so any resemblance with known characters would be not
only fortuitous but impossible. All the present statements have to be
viewed as mere metaphors, exaggerations and manners of speaking.
One characteristic feature that comes out very clearly and
seems loaded with importance in the social functioning of certain
countries, is the fact one has to be nice. And as an individual, you
get the strange impression that if you step out of line on this issue,
we won’t be very nice to you... For it quickly seems to you that
there are people who generously and selflessly pose themselves as the
dubbed knights of nicety, bearers of the order of the happy face or
heralds of the nice thinking, who sort of ensure that you will be
nice. In order to do this, they won’t hesitate to use the
appropriate means. They will push courage and devotion to the point of
readily giving up being very nice as soon as some unconscious brute
seems or threatens to break the established code. The problem with
these good willed persons is that there are so many not-nice people
around, that the poor fellows don’t even have the time to be
nice anymore; they have to spend their time and energy being not-nice
with the not-nice people. And they are so caught up in their
responsibility, so committed to rooting out all not-niceness, that
they catch a sort of disease linked to this professional activity:
they are not-nice.
Well in a sort of way, it is not that they are really not-nice. In
fact they have a common say, a four words expression, which saves them
from equivocation, so we recognize who they are and do not mistake the
nice not-nice person with the banal, brutish and usual not-nice
not-nice person. This expression stands as a sort of short code, a
pass word they use or a mantra they chant constantly, that reminds
them who they are, even when they are caught in the middle of the
permanent tornado of a such not-nice world. “Have a nice
day!” “Have a nice day!” “Have a nice
day!” do they say.
Furthermore, some became real professionals through their involvement
in this just struggle: they have identified most of the premises and
symptoms of not-nice thinking. They have defined them, outlined them,
classified them and since this revelation dedicate their life to
pursuing, chasing and condemning these pathological thinking, sayings
and behaviors. The profound and insightful understanding they have
forged themselves into the arcane of not-nice thinking allows them a
more in-depth work in their ongoing practice of rooting out the seeds
of such undesirable ways of being. Their work has become a real art,
very subtle and refined. For example they can recognize a mile away a
not-nice person with a not-nice behavior and not-nice thoughts even if
this person is very very nice. Because one should never mix up a nice
not-nice person with a not-nice nice person. They resemble each other
like the dog resembles the wolf, a very dangerous look alike!
Of course they have a lot of detractors. Some bad mouths go as far as
to compare them to the inquisition, or claim their constant chasing of
not nice thinking resemble the pursuit of not national or not social
behaviors in other places or other times. But all these odious
statements are typically the insidious type of arguments made up by
not-nice people, a functioning which is quite revealing of their
profound wicked selves, and rests the case on why they should be
chased after relentlessly and eradicated. One should not think these
niceness lovers are irrational and extremist. All they say and think
has been well and thoroughly thought out. And they are open to debate.
The only difficulty is just that they haven't heard any argument yet
that could really stick against their own positions, they have not
encountered a single convincing, irrefutable or substantial evidence
that could in any way restrain or weaken their theory. It is as simple
as that.
Like with all school of thoughts, you have the theoreticians and
masters, the militants, and then the simple rank and filers who just
trust their leaders, generally without always being totally conscious
that their leaders are their leaders. They mostly take for granted
what they hear, viewing as normal the injunctions they receive,
rendering without any holding back the tone that has been set. Very
often, these disciples have so well learned and absorbed the message
that at any time they will readily and almost gladly give up truth or
renounce to express whatever they think to be true, viewing this
challenge as a wonderful opportunity to manifest the extent of their
sacrifice. For example - experience which could be rich in teachings
for everyone -, you could step on their toes that they would keep
smiling at you in order not to hurt your feelings. They will go out
their way not to say what they think to avoid being not nice. This, by
the way is how you recognize a militant from a simple convert. The
latter will always be nice unless confronted to a far extreme, when
the previous will not hesitate a single second to be not-nice in order
to make anyone be nice. Which is understandable, since he feels
responsible for all the others to be nice, altruistic behavior which
is much less concerned with his own niceness than the one of society
as a whole.
An undeniable attribute of nice people is that they are community
conscious. Whether they will go out of their way in order not to
contradict what the others say, or whether they are ready to fight
with everyone in order to make them nice, ethics is a main part of
their preoccupation. Pernicious minds would claim that the first
category is coward and the second dictatorial, but once more this
proves precisely our point: not nice people are libelous and
villainous. Unlike the three well-known wise monkeys, they see evil,
they hear evil, they say evil. Which totally justifies the harsh means
that guardians of niceness must sadly resort to. Which fully explains
as well the irascibility of these poor guardians, having to put
themselves in the kind of state that is absolutely unnatural to them.
But thanks God for the nice people, there are laws that can be
written, and a justice to enforce these laws, so that niceness can
become not only a moral but a juridical obligation for all citizens.
Little by little battles are won, which oblige everyone to be nice.
New initiatives come up, which define new ways one should be nice,
brand new obligations which will not allow us to rest on already
established and complacent niceties. To be nice is not a large avenue
paved with flowers, with the smell of myrrh and incense, it is a
demanding and strenuous path, an initiation we have to undertake even
if it makes us miserable. So next time you indulge in being not nice,
just think of the great fun you could have making yourself miserable.
And if you feel in anyway frustrated, you can relieve your pain by
forcing everybody else to be nice. You will definitely feel much
better.
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